Monday, July 19, 2010

frenemies

sigh.
harsh words. anoymous insults. hurt feelings. "forwarded" texts and facebook messages. back stabbing. whispers. rumors. double crossing. lies. betrayal. talking behind others' backs.

frenemies. thats the name for people like this. they act like they're your best friend, but talk bad about you and spread rumors about you behind your back. these so-called "friends" take the jealousy they feel for you (or another friend, or boyfriend, or girlfriend, etc) and their own insecurities and use it as a way to hurt others. they think that makes them feel better.

we've all seen it. many of us have DONE it. i've seen this kind of thing happening to my friends a lot lately and its driving me nuts to see the drama is causes. and its sooo unneccesary. its as simple as this: dont ever ever say anything about someone behind their back that you wouldnt say to their face. if you have something else you WANT to say or something you THINK about them, keep it to yourself. its not necessary to talk about people behind their back, lie to their face, act like you're their friend and then hurt them. dont start drama, dont get involved in other people's drama, but instead, be a mediator between friends, tell the truth ALWAYS and dont intentionally hurt your "friends." be a TRUE friend.

avoid getting the title "frenemie." its not a good label to have.

"Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. Don't have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know that produce quarrels. And the Lord's servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful." (2 Timothy 2:22)

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